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Beauty and Love

I have nothing against Twilight. Absolutely nothing. Okay, I hate the screaming fangirls, but I hate all screaming fangirls, so... yeah. I actually love the strong theme of soulmates in the series. It's beautiful, wonderful, and lovely. And so are the characters... beautiful... gorgeous... perfect... At least, physically. I don't at all see Edward as the "perfect man", but might be slightly off the topic.

In other media, too... we see beautiful people falling in love in movies and TV. We see seemingly flawless celebrities fall in love on and off set. And all these things are not wrong. I enjoy watching beautiful people in love just as much as everyone else.

The problem is... that's usually all we see. Where are the stories of the imperfect people? The overweight, insecure teenage girl and the geeky, pimply, just as insecure boy? We may get movies somewhat in this theme, but the actors always look more beautiful than the average person. And what does this do? It makes girls grow into women like me, who hate their bodies, and find it hard to imagine a guy would ever see through to the inner beauty.

Certainly, it doesn't do this single-handedly. But these images get into our heads, and we start to blur together love and beauty, when they are not at all the same thing. And then, that's what people desire. Perfect bodies, where perfect doesn't even exist. They expect it from themselves, their partners, and their idols. And these expectations feed the cycle. I actually read a comment recently on how an actor's large-ish nose ruined a romance movie for them. Seriously?

This body is tied to this Earth, and whatever comes afterward, we leave it behind. I think that should give you an idea of how important physical beauty is. Appreciate it, sure. There's nothing wrong with that. But above all, look through someone's eyes and listen to their words. That's where falling in love belongs.


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Jun. 8th, 2012 02:10 am (UTC)

This is why a lot of mainstream media really triggers me. I can't stand the thought of only being seen as a body, as only appreciated for my physical attributes.

I think my husband's face is wonderful. And it is. But it's because his soul is behind it, you know?

I don't know. Bodies just never meant that much to me. Like I see these images of guys that supposedly are "hot", and I'm like yeah, I don't get it. But then I think I'm fairly asexual. The only person I'm attracted to is the one I'm married to.

I don't really understand the process where the images get into people's heads. I mean - I guess they get into mine to the extent that it really bothers me that people objectify other people and see them only as bodies and not as people, but I've never...I guess I've never identified with the images and taken them as something that I should aspire to or try to force other people to be like?

Humans are so hard to understand.
Jun. 8th, 2012 02:36 am (UTC)
Yeah, it's rare for me to more than casually notice a man's attractiveness. And I just don't get the muscles and all that stuff. But I look at beautiful girls, and I get upset, because I will never ever look like that, and that's what guys want.

I want that, what you have. I don't care what he'll look like. I know I'll love his body, because it's where his soul lives. But it's just gotten hard to imagine a guy feeling the same way. :( No one has ever wanted me.
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Jun. 8th, 2012 02:41 am (UTC)
I'll have to take a look at that. Thanks!
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